What did I realize in the course of my searches? These seven things among many others:

First, That it’s possible to change the present outcome of past sorrows in my case the traumas of war, family feuds and mental illness. Delving into and coming to understand the inter-generational effects of these trauma for Mother, for the family and for myself has made me more accepting and free of the tensions of family secrets and prohibitions.  I am no longer a girl looking for her father; I know who I came from  and I have a more accurate sense of who I am.  Finding Mother’s sisters has given me a greater feeling of belonging than I’ve ever known.  This is intergenerational healing -true for for my children and their children as well as for myself.