Category: Publications

Scan 4In 2008 I met my 94 year old Aunt Elinor for the first time.  She had been lost to the family since 1936 when she was sent to the mental hospital as a 23 year old mother of two small children.  Elinor was feisty, affectionate, and she still played the piano when I found her in a nursing home.  I saw her as a kind of bodhisattva in the way she related to everyone around her as family and lived without so many of the things I deem necessary.  The article in the Mindfulness Bell introduces her as Sadaparibhuta, the bodhisattva who never disparages.

Lost in the VictoryBased on interviews with 25 people whose fathers died in WWII, Lost in the Victory breaks the silence surrounding mention of the death of fathers in war by telling the stories of growing up in the shadow of their father’s death.

The voices in this book belong to sons and daughters who for half a century have seldom spoken of their fathers, or of their own lives after the deaths of their fathers.  At a young age, they learned to keep quiet about such things, and only with great reticence have they now been able to discuss their loss and its impact on their lives.